An Open Letter to an Undisclosed Person: Thank you for meeting with me about my displeasure with your organization. I appreciated you taking the time out of your busy day to meet although your heart was not open and we left on the same terms with which we met. At the time, I was utterly…
Category: miscarriage
The Monthly Miscarriage
What is The Monthly Miscarriage? Is this really such a thing? For many women, especially women struggling with infertility, it absolutely is a thing and it can be devastating. I have experienced it myself although not monthly as my cycles were not that close together but it is a horrible experience to say the least….
Naivety vs. Faith in Pregnancy After Loss
I had an immense amount of faith during my pregnancy with G. When G was stillborn, I lost all that faith. I couldn’t understand why this happened and more importantly, why this happened to us. We were devout Catholics. We prayed for this baby. How could God have taken this baby? So when we became…
My Wanted Pregnancy – Aborted
First I want to state for the record that this post is NOT ABOUT ABORTION. It is about abortion terminology and the topic will still be quite controversial in nature. Should the word abortion be used to describe miscarriage? I touched on this point in my book It’s Not Just a Heavy Period; The Miscarriage Handbook,…
What is a Bereavement Doula? Glad you asked!
What is a Bereavement Doula? That isn’t even a common question. I have been a birth doula for over 11 years and when I started, most people had no clue what a doula was, nor could they repeat the word. It was usually repeated back as “adoula.” When I began my bereavement doula journey, the…
Original Zuckerberg Post
I have seen so many families and organizations relishing over Mark Zuckerberg’s miscarriage announcement. He and his wife, Priscilla Chan have had three miscarriages before conceiving the baby girl they are now pregnant with. The New York Post, Today, CNN, and The Huffington Post all carried the story. They and other news outlets used statements such as “Zuckerberg destigmatizes miscarriage…, Zuckerberg…
Why I am not “Applauding” Zuckerberg’s Miscarriage Announcement
This post has been modified from the original version. You can access the original by clicking on the link at the end of this post. I have seen so many families and organizations relishing over Mark Zuckerberg’s pregnancy announcement where he shared that he and his wife Priscilla Chan have had three miscarriages before conceiving…
Announcing a Miscarriage on Facebook
Announcing a Miscarriage on Facebook I didn’t realize how popular people search “how to announce a miscarriage on Facebook.” I am so sorry for your loss if you have come to this page looking for a way to announce the a miscarriage on Facebook. I too have been in your shoes…TWICE. It’s horrible. Let’s talk…
Miscarriage Series – Don’t Think We Didn’t Notice
After a pregnancy loss, it’s almost impossible to ignore the pregnancy announcements. We usually have many pregnant friends or friends having babies and we see their birth announcements, first smile, videos of when they first roll over, etc. Many of us who love hearing about their pregnancies despite how hard it might be. I remember this…
Miscarriage Series – Final Thoughts
Looking back, I wonder if this pregnancy was doomed from the beginning. Nearly every step of the way there was an obstacle. I learned I was pregnant on a Friday morning. I was only about 10 or 11 days past ovulation but I was excited to test. I didn’t feel pregnant at all but who…