You’ve just been told that your baby/pregnancy isn’t viable, that there is no longer a heartbeat, or that you will be miscarrying; so what do you do now? Chances are, you were sent home with medication to induce the miscarriage or told to just go home and wait it out but do you really know…
Category: miscarriage
Miscarriages are NOT Heavy Periods
“Miscarriages are like heavy periods.” I don’t understand where this phrase comes from at all. After diagnosis of a miscarriage, many women hear the words, “It will be like a heavy period.” Sometimes the medical professional adds, “And you might see more clots and pass tissue.” There is rarely mention of pain or contractions. Do…
Dear Emergency Departments Everywhere
Dear Emergency Departments everywhere… STOP SENDING WOMEN HOME WHO ARE HAVING A MISCARRIAGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I really cannot stress this enough. It’s getting very old hearing the words, “There is nothing we can do, go home.” Is that really all you have to say? Do you really thing there is nothing you can do? Let me explain…
On this day, May 11
Last year, he was born on May 11. Silent and still on the ultrasound just days before, we knew his birth was inevitable. It was devastating. Our 4th and thought-to-be last child, gone so quickly. We were so excited to be pregnant with him, naturally and at our age. It was a miracle. But he was…
They lost a child for goodness sake!
It isn’t called a miscarriage, it’s called a stillbirth. They lost a child for goodness sake. This is a very interesting statement and it implies that a woman experiencing a miscarriage, did not lose a child. If she didn’t lose a child, what DID she lose? For me, the moment I discovered I was pregnant,…
The Water Ceremony for Miscarriage
You may find yourself here because you have experienced a miscarriage and are looking for a particular kind of ceremony for your baby or maybe you flushed your baby and would like a way to honor your baby and find a bit of peace and closure. This post will walk you through the water ceremony…
Caffeine Linked to Miscarriage – Study
Today.com posted an article today entitled Caffeine Linked to Miscarriage and Dad’s Habits Matter Too. The headline: “New Warning for Couples Trying to Conceive: Caffeine Linked to Miscarriage.” The headline alone will make anyone stop and take a look, especially those trying to conceive. This article can be frightening and I don’t think it has…
12 Things I Needed to Hear from my Doctor After My Miscarriage
This article originally appeared at The Mighty on November 15, 2015. I have miscarried two babies, Ruby in 2010 and Gus in 2015. I had two very different experiences with my miscarriage. In 2010, the doctor treated my experience as a medical event and was unemotional. It took months for me to be OK with…
What to Consider if you’re Experiencing a Miscarriage
This article originally appeared at The Mighty on January 28, 2016. 1 in 4 women will experience a miscarriage. Most commonly, miscarriage occurs in the first trimester; however, miscarriage can occur up to 20 weeks. After 20 weeks, a pregnancy loss is called a stillbirth, which occurs in 1 in 160 pregnancies. Women are often…
Surviving the Holidays After Pregnancy Loss
It’s the holidays. Notoriously a happy and gleeful time of year yet can be the most painful time of year, especially following pregnancy loss. If you have experienced a loss this year, I am so sorry for your loss. I am so sorry that this will be your first Christmas without your baby. I don’t…