Gerber Life Grow Up Plan notification received 3 years after baby died - All That is Seen and UnseenThank you Gerber Life Insurance Company for reminding me that the baby I lost to miscarriage would be turning three this month.

I have blogged about painful reminders before. Honestly, as much as I know this happens, it didn’t cross my mind this year that I would be receiving this letter in the mail. Both of my sons have this life insurance. I am not really sure why I chose to insure them, but I have. Needless to say, mailings from Gerber are often and I RARELY open them but there were pretty balloons on this envelope so I opened it this time.

Much to my surprise, it wasn’t a delayed Happy Birthday message to Joey, but a solicitation for insurance for my soon to be three year old.

Messages like this no longer invoke a serious emotional response. Last year was a different story and the first year was brutal. An article is coming up in the December Newsletter of United Through Pregnancy and Infant Loss that describes these types of feelings after a loss. It’s a survival guide for the holiday’s. Ruby’s due date just happened to be coupled with Thanksgiving.

Check out the newsletter when it comes out. It’s a great resource and I am not just saying that because I write for them and help put the newsletter together. 🙂

So, how do we stop these painful reminders? We have to call the companies. If there was ONE number we could call to get ALL of the letters and such to stop, that would make it simple but there isn’t so right now, we just have to call all of them individually.

Has anyone else received these mailings after your loss? What did you do? How did you feel? What was the response from the company you called?

– Breaking the silence of First Trimester Miscarriage