I was reading a different blog recently, entitled Infertility, Miscarriage, and Hope. The author made me really think long and hard. Her blog was so honest and open. It resonated with me in so many ways. I too suffered from infertility and miscarriage. And I too, had hope and was blessed with my rainbow baby as this woman was. But the beginning of her blog and how she described infertility as lonely and isolated really struck me.
She is right. With infertility comes loneliness and isolation. With miscarriage comes loneliness and isolation. Why are both of these fraught with loneliness and isolation. These are issues where we need others to lean on, yet we are left to suffer in silence. All of us. Not only would I be suffering, but possibly the girl next to me in line at the grocery store, or the girl sitting next to me in church. We are both suffering but neither of us would know about it, because we are suffering in silence.
How horrible is that? If I knew the woman next to me was suffering, I would want to reach out to her and give her a big hug. I would want to tell her everything was okay and that I felt the same way she did. I would want to tell her that I was here for her and she could lean on me at any time. Instead, we trade glances but never realize that the emptiness in her eyes is because she lost a baby or because she hasn’t conceived a baby yet.
I have been in your shoes. I know what it’s like to suffer with infertility. To try so hard to have a baby yet every time I peed on that stick, it was negative. I know! I feel! I understand! I am sorry!
I also know what it’s like to lose a baby. To suffer. To do nothing but cry and writhe in a pain that we should never have to feel. A pain that is so immense and deep that nothing can take away. I know and I am sorry!
We need to break this silence, not just on miscarriage, but on infertility. We need to band together and support each other. Will you join me?
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