I have been asked this question a few times. “When it comes to a blighted ovum, is it a baby or not? I was told I shouldn’t grieve the loss because it wasn’t really a baby, it had no soul.” This can be quite controversial but no matter what you believe, this loss is very…
Category: grief
Announcing an early pregnancy
Many women are hesitant to announce their pregnancy early. Some wait until a blood test confirms. Others wait until they see a heartbeat. Some wait until they are twelve weeks and beyond but why? Isn’t a line a line? Doesn’t pregnant mean pregnant? Here is an early pregnancy test. It was taken 11 days after…
What if doctors changed this in relation to miscarriage and stillbirth?
Many families who experience miscarriage or stillbirth want to have genetic testing done both on themselves and on the baby. They want to know “why” this horrible experience happened. When it comes to miscarriage, many women are told that they must endure three miscarriages before testing will be done. They are rarely given the option to pay for…
Nationwide Insurance Fails Again!
“A news article featuring a Supreme Court decision involving Nationwide Insurance made it into my newsfeed. So many people think it’s a joke but I assure you, it’s not. When you read below, you too will think to yourself…huh? While this post isn’t about bereavement, it does continue to show how horrible Nationwide really is….
Response to Nationwide Insurance Superbowl Commercial
Dear Nationwide Insurance, I tried to see your commercial as a way to bring awareness and prevention to accidental deaths. I tried not to be fearful of the hurt that this commercial would bring to so many families. I tried to push aside my own personal loss and the feelings surrounding it to see some…
I imagined.
I was starting to get excited about you. I had been thinking about you for over eight months now but I have been scared to even think about bringing you to life. There are so many risks, after all, at our age. When I think back about how I envisioned parenthood, this is not what…
Recipe for Grief Soup
When a family experiences the loss of a child, I make them grief soup. I have blogged about this soup in the past. It is amazing and so healing. I have served this soup though for other types of loss as well, the loss of a mother, the loss of a brother, and the near death…
Just Breathe
I didn’t want her when I conceived her. She was an inconvenience when those two lines appeared. How could this be happening? Now? Why couldn’t she have come just months before? Before my entire path in life was falling into place? Before my dreams had finally come true? I was being childish. I was being…
Candlelight Vigil to Remember Babies
On October 15th, 2014 at 7pm, families gathered for a Candlelight Vigil and Remembrance at Rock A My Baby Family Enrichment Center in Castle Rock, CO to remember and honor babies who were lost to miscarriage, stillbirth, SIDS and other reasons. The event was hosted by Dragonflies For Ruby in coordination with Rock A My…
The Angel Memorial in Parker, Colorado
I have blogged about the Rowan Tree Foundation’s Child Loss Angel Memorial in Parker Colorado before. It is a place I often visit even though Ruby does not have a tile or memorial stone there. I took the kids with me last Saturday as we waited for a friend from Stillbirthday to arrive. The Stillbirthday Birth Professionals Bereavement Workshop was taking place the following…