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New book announcement

I have been contemplating for quite sometime, turning my bereavement ministry over to my faith. At last year’s October 15th Candlelight Vigil and Remembrance Event, I really felt a draw to make Dragonflies For Ruby a Catholic ministry. I have supported people of many different faiths and spirituality and I would never turn anyone away regardless of their faith but I have a desire to really focus on the Catholic side of supporting Catholic women and families through miscarriage, stillbirth, and child loss.

Catholics are pro-life. I am pro-life yet there is a problem in the Church. Women experiencing miscarriage and stillbirth are given very little support from their priests, pastors, and bishops as they navigate their loss. I was very fortunate to have a priest educate me on the importance of my baby’s life (no matter how short) and celebrating that life. His name is Father John Paul Leyba (formerly the parochial vicar at Our Lady of Loreto Catholic Parish and now Pastor at St. Frances Cabrini in Littleton).

I wrote about him in my book, All That is Seen and Unseen; A Journey Through a First Trimester Miscarriage, even placing my personal conversations and letter to him in the book. Father John Paul encouraged me to pray about the sex of my baby, name my baby, and celebrate. When we lost Gus, my Pastor, Monsignor Ed Buelt at Our Lady of Loreto, encouraged us to have a commendation ceremony. It was so beautiful and healing to have this and I want more Catholic’s to know about this option.

But even more so, I would like to share these resources with many Catholic women and help them navigate their miscarriage, knowing the teachings of the Church so I have started a fourth book! It is tentatively titled, The Catholic’s Guide to Miscarriage. The book will contain scripture verses and information from the Catechism as well information that’s out there on how to handle miscarriage according to the Catholic faith. Of course it will have the medical aspects of miscarriage in it but it’s a guide and hopefully will serve as a wonderful resource for Catholics and clergy.

So stay tuned! I am hoping to release the book before the end of the year but I will be seeking endorsement from the Archbishop of Denver so it may take longer. Prayers that the book comes along easily and receives Catholic endorsement and prayers for Dragonflies For Ruby as we make the transition to a Catholic faith-based organization!

All That is Seen and Unseen In the News



All That is Seen and Unseen; A Journey Through a First Trimester Miscarriage“I always wanted to write a book, I just never thought I would write THIS book,” acknowledged new author, Elizabeth Petrucelli, at her recent book launch.  Over the past several years, Elizabeth began, but never finished, two other books; one on being a police SWAT wife, and another about her journey through infertility.   Her book, All That is Seen and Unseen, was the one that she did finish.  It was released on February 22, 2012.  The topic: first trimester miscarriage.  Why did Elizabeth never think she would write THIS book?  She never imagined being personally affected by miscarriage.  But in April of 2010, Elizabeth lost her daughter, Ruby Josephine, to a first trimester miscarriage.

All That is Seen and Unseen is a memoir from her personal journal entries surrounding her own pregnancy and miscarriage with Ruby.  Elizabeth was inspired to publish her book after searching endlessly for a book specifically about miscarriages in the first trimester. “There was no book I could turn to and I felt lost,” Elizabeth shared on her blog entry from March 23, 2012, “One in five women will experience a miscarriage so it was strange there was nothing on the market. Later, I knew I needed to write this book so that ALL women had a place to turn.”

Elizabeth lives in Parker, Colorado with her husband, Jason, and 8 year old son, Joey.  Raised in Oklahoma, she went on to join the Marines.  After Elizabeth met her husband, they moved to Colorado in 1999.  They faced issues with infertility and with several years of trying, Joey was conceived.

After becoming a doula and running her own business for a few years, Elizabeth decided to pursue her dream of becoming a police officer.  During that journey she discovered she was unexpectedly pregnant.  Due to the timing of her pregnancy, Elizabeth was distressed and unhappy.  Though she quickly had a change of heart and grew to love the new life growing inside of her.  However, like many other moms who endure pregnancy losses, she had a feeling she would lose her baby.  Sadly, at 8 weeks and 3 days into her pregnancy, Elizabeth learned that her feeling had become a reality.

Through her book, Elizabeth bravely shares with us her intimate feelings surrounding the loss of her pregnancy.  Many of these feelings are secretly shared by other women who have had first trimester losses.  But due to the often taboo subject of pregnancy loss in our society, many women are afraid to share their feelings surrounding their own loss.  Many grieving moms feel like society is telling them to “move on”, or to “just get over it.” So many of these moms are forced to grieve alone, or don’t allow themselves to grieve at all. Through its transparency, All That is Seen and Unseen, has the power to help women find meaning in their loss, and to know that they are not alone in their vast array of emotions that come through this type of grief.

Elizabeth chose Shadia Duske, MA, NCC, to edit her book.  Shadia is a psychotherapist in the Denver area whose primary focus is reproductive issues, including perinatal loss.  Shadia recognizes the importance of acknowledging pregnancy loss at any stage of pregnancy.  Whether a pregnancy is lost shortly after conception, or at 8 weeks, or 28 weeks, or 38 weeks, it was still a loss.  “It is important to raise awareness about the impact of pregnancy loss at ANY gestational period.  Elizabeth was brave to come forward and say that her grief was valid enough to write a book about it.  Her baby mattered!”  Shadia recently shared.

Lori Adams, an RN at the Parker Adventist Hospital Birthplace, works with bereaved parents.  She had nothing but praise for this book, “As I read All that is Seen and Unseen, I was struck by Elizabeth’s honesty and her exceptionally clear recollection of all of the events.  I admire how Elizabeth speaks so openly from her heart; you can’t help but feel every emotion encompassed in her grief.”

Elizabeth PetrucelliElizabeth hosted her first book launch and signing on March 22, 2012 at the Summit in Aurora, Colorado.  She announced on March 29, 2012 that her next book signing will be at Sweet Beginnings in Littleton, CO, on April 28th from 1pm to 3pm.  All That is Seen and Unseen can be purchased through  A Kindle edition will soon be available as well.  You can connect with Elizabeth via  facebook.

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