My blog has been quiet these last three weeks. I have been consumed with the death of my grandfather-in-law. Right before Christmas, grandpa became sick and was struggling. Grandma, has been in chemotherapy for ovarian cancer and we discovered that despite months of treatments, the chemotherapy did not work and she was given a short…
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Miscarriage Series – Hand and Stone Spa
Hubby scheduled me a massage at Hand and Stone Spa. We are both members there and have really enjoyed the services they offer. It was Sunday, the Sunday after Mother’s Day and we were headed to his mother’s house to celebrate Mother’s Day. Last Sunday was ruined by snow so we were doing a “re-do.”…
Miscarriage Series – The Name
I have been thinking about what to name this child. This child must have a name. I felt Ruby was a girl from the beginning. We wanted that confirmed through testing but Kaiser messed all that up and discarded Ruby’s body like trash. It is imperative this doesn’t happen again. I want to follow this…
World Doula Week 2015
It’s World Doula Week 2015 This is a week that honors doulas everywhere and while most people think of the traditional doula (labor/birth doula) only during this special week, there are many other types of doulas out there. Each specialty is unique and doesn’t just serve pregnant women delivering living, healthy babies. How many types…
4 years without you.
Today is the four anniversary of your due date. If you had been born alive, we would be celebrating your birthday today but you died and you are not here on earth with us. We were talking about you this morning. I was telling your daddy that I couldn’t believe we would have a four year…
Babies Die and We Don’t Know Why
Babies die and we don’t know why (most of the time). I did everything right in my pregnancy so why? Why did he have to die? Would it make more sense if I had something to blame? Spicy food, too much exercise, alcohol, smelling smoke, but alas, there is nothing. Not one thing I can…
Mementos and Bereavement Support
Last night I had the privilege of meeting with Jennifer Mason of Jennifer Mason Photography while at a support group for birth professionals who assist families through pregnancy and infant loss. While our group was there to provide support to each other, network, and listen to our stories of baby loss, someone shared a story of a recent loss. This…
Bereavement Doula Services for Photographers
On a Facebook group that I am a member of, I noticed a posting for someone looking for a photographer for a stillbirth that was taking place that evening. The photographer couldn’t make it and she was looking for a backup. As a bereavement doula, I anxiously observed as many photographers stepped up to the…
Speaking Engagement
I spoke on the parent panel at The Wishbone Foundation Birth Professionals Training Workshop last week. I am always so honored when I am asked to speak there. I love that they include first trimester miscarriage in their training. When I sat on the panel, I noticed these wires that you see on the right. I stared…