This post has been modified from the original version. You can access the original by clicking on the link at the end of this post. I have seen so many families and organizations relishing over Mark Zuckerberg’s pregnancy announcement where he shared that he and his wife Priscilla Chan have had three miscarriages before conceiving…
Category: first trimester miscarriage
Announcing a Miscarriage on Facebook
Announcing a Miscarriage on Facebook I didn’t realize how popular people search “how to announce a miscarriage on Facebook.” I am so sorry for your loss if you have come to this page looking for a way to announce the a miscarriage on Facebook. I too have been in your shoes…TWICE. It’s horrible. Let’s talk…
Miscarriage Series – Don’t Think We Didn’t Notice
After a pregnancy loss, it’s almost impossible to ignore the pregnancy announcements. We usually have many pregnant friends or friends having babies and we see their birth announcements, first smile, videos of when they first roll over, etc. Many of us who love hearing about their pregnancies despite how hard it might be. I remember this…
Miscarriage Series – Final Thoughts
Looking back, I wonder if this pregnancy was doomed from the beginning. Nearly every step of the way there was an obstacle. I learned I was pregnant on a Friday morning. I was only about 10 or 11 days past ovulation but I was excited to test. I didn’t feel pregnant at all but who…
Dear Doctor: What I Wish You Knew About My Miscarriage
Dear Doctor, You just gave me the worst news ever. Let me tell you what I wish you knew about my miscarriage. My miscarriage may be a medical event but please do not treat it as merely a medical event. My miscarriage is much more than that to me. My miscarriage is shocking, even if…
When the Bereavement Doula Needs a Bereavement Doula
What is it like when a bereavement doula needs a bereavement doula? The night before my scheduled ultrasound, I began to panic. Over the last few days, I had become overly concerned with going to this appointment alone. All of my other appointments, up until then, I had the support of my husband and children with…
Miscarriage Series – The Reason
“Everything happens for a reason.” “God saved you from an unhealthy baby.” “God doesn’t give you anything you can’t handle.” “You wouldn’t want a child with a disability.” These are all “excuses” we were given recently regarding why this miscarriage happened. It’s sad really. While I generally take the side of “there is a reason for everything,” it’s…
Miscarriage Series – 2 weeks
It’s been two weeks since we found out you were gone. Two weeks since that fateful day in the ultrasound room. I almost can’t believe how fast the time has gone by. It even seems as if some family and friends think I should be done grieving at this point. So few still check on…
Miscarriage Series – The Commendation Ceremony
I wasn’t sure what a Naming and Commendation Ceremony really was. After Ruby died, we were encouraged to celebrate her life and name her. We didn’t have an official ceremony but we named her. I had been to a commendation ceremony before for some clients but I wasn’t sure what ours would be like considering…
Miscarriage Series – The Burial
My brother is here this morning. He arrived unexpectedly two days before but it was a very welcome visit. He even stayed an extra day which made things so wonderful. We talked a lot and the best part was we just took up where we left off as if we had seen each other yesterday….