I treasured you from the very beginning and prayed you would live but after learning about your condition, I knew God had chosen me to carry you your whole life! I was chosen for YOU, Gus. I knew your name from day one. I think I knew you wouldn’t make it but I had no…
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She Would be 11 Today!
It’s hard to believe I would have an 11 year old right now. A girl, approaching her teen years but I know if she was born, I likely wouldn’t have my other children. I think of her often still. I think about what she would be like and the things we would be doing together….
12 Things I Needed to Hear from my Doctor After My Miscarriage
This article originally appeared at The Mighty on November 15, 2015. I have miscarried two babies, Ruby in 2010 and Gus in 2015. I had two very different experiences with my miscarriage. In 2010, the doctor treated my experience as a medical event and was unemotional. It took months for me to be OK with…
The Miscarriage Due Date
I have been thinking about you so much lately. Right now, my belly would be ripe and we would be prepared for your arrival. Your due date is only a few days away. Joey was born a few weeks early and Timmy came on his due date so we would have either had you by…
Study on Progesterone Supplementation to Prevent Recurrent Miscarriage
I want to talk about this study. The study that states: A Randomized Trial of Progesterone in Women with Recurrent Miscarriages and how the news media organizations have deemed progesterone supplementation in pregnancy futile. Here they are with their titles: Studies unveiled Progesterone (Miscarriage preventer) Medicine is vain Women In First Trimester Of Pregnancy Don’t Benefit…
Miscarriage Series – Don’t Think We Didn’t Notice
After a pregnancy loss, it’s almost impossible to ignore the pregnancy announcements. We usually have many pregnant friends or friends having babies and we see their birth announcements, first smile, videos of when they first roll over, etc. Many of us who love hearing about their pregnancies despite how hard it might be. I remember this…
Miscarriage Series – Final Thoughts
Looking back, I wonder if this pregnancy was doomed from the beginning. Nearly every step of the way there was an obstacle. I learned I was pregnant on a Friday morning. I was only about 10 or 11 days past ovulation but I was excited to test. I didn’t feel pregnant at all but who…
Dear Doctor: What I Wish You Knew About My Miscarriage
Dear Doctor, You just gave me the worst news ever. Let me tell you what I wish you knew about my miscarriage. My miscarriage may be a medical event but please do not treat it as merely a medical event. My miscarriage is much more than that to me. My miscarriage is shocking, even if…
When the Bereavement Doula Needs a Bereavement Doula
What is it like when a bereavement doula needs a bereavement doula? The night before my scheduled ultrasound, I began to panic. Over the last few days, I had become overly concerned with going to this appointment alone. All of my other appointments, up until then, I had the support of my husband and children with…
Miscarriage Series – The Reason
“Everything happens for a reason.” “God saved you from an unhealthy baby.” “God doesn’t give you anything you can’t handle.” “You wouldn’t want a child with a disability.” These are all “excuses” we were given recently regarding why this miscarriage happened. It’s sad really. While I generally take the side of “there is a reason for everything,” it’s…